Should I get my husband a Father's Day gift?
My husband and I have a six year old, and this year my son was absent from school leading up to Mother's Day meaning I got no card, picture or little trinket to celebrate. To celebrate, my husband made breakfast that morning, something he usually doesn't do. This behaviour of my husband's not celebrating special occasions is not unusual. He forgets birthdays, anniversaries, etc. In some ways I have accepted his behaviour and moved on but this Mother's Day, it really hurt. My husband doesn't work so I am the sole provider. Also, in the past few months my husband has not been cooking or cleaning regularly, leaving that to me when I get home. He also doesn't drive so any extra-curriculars, play dates my son goes on is chaperoned by me. My husband comes every once in a while but he or more less gets to decide when he participates. I think this is why I felt he should have done more for Mother's Day because I feel like I sometimes go above and beyond for the family.
Despite my husband's shortcomings, I try to do to celebrate him as much as I can but I am actually on the fence this year about Father's Day. Personally I feel like he deserves the same treatment as me but at the same time, what does this shown our son? My son and I have made it a tradition to go out to look for a present and celebrate dad. At the same time, what does not celebrating mom show my son?
FYI - Last year for our wedding anniversary, I got my husband a small gift and he got me nothing. He went out a few days later and got me something. This seems to be the dynamic. I give first and then he reciporates.
